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We all have a story, here’s mine…
At age 30, my life was a mess. I was in a very dark place. Every day I would wake up, and force myself to get out of bed. Only to spend the whole day alone crying. I didn’t know what had hit me..
There was an enormous amount of shame attached to what I was experiencing, so I kept all my darkness to myself. All I knew for sure is that if I let others see this part of me, I would never be loved again.
To the outside world, I kept a brave face and a big fake smile. Beneath it all, I was depressed.
I had no self-worth, no self-belief but at the time, I didn’t even know it…
To the outside world, I kept a brave face and a big fake smile. Beneath it all, I was depressed.
I had no self-worth, no self-belief but at the time, I didn’t even know it…
Have you ever felt so stuck or lost that you wanted to give up?
Well, that was me!
At the time it felt like my depression came out of nowhere. Thanks to a friend, I was introduced to self development. I didn’t know what else to do, so I dove into as much personal development as I could get my hands on. As I courageously started my inner journey, and began to peel away the layers of pretence, I started to see things about myself I had not been aware of before.
The hardest part of hitting rock bottom was coming face to face with my “shadow”. This is where all the repressed parts of myself, all that I had not wanted to acknowledge was part of me. I had to face my shame, fears, traumas, and limiting beliefs about myself. It became painfully clear to me that I had built a life around pleasing others. In fact, I had built a life around being a good girl, putting other’s needs ahead of my own in order to get love. Ultimately, I was doing my best to be the person everyone else wanted me to be, forgetting myself in the process. I realised that the reason I was so unhappy, so lost, so afraid was because I had lost touch with myself.
Slowly everything started to make sense! I looked my life straight in the eye, realising the reason my life was so stressful and felt meaningless was that I was constantly looking for outside approval and relying on others to build my self-esteem. I had none of my own as a result..
I’ve been on my own healing journey (which you can read about in my book) for the last 20+ years. In the process, I found many truths (and many more lies!) that I had pushed away for many years. My “dark night of the soul” completely transformed my life in the most amazing ways. As a result I can stand more in my own truth, and I can look myself in the mirror and love what I see and feel. Even if I am and will always be a work in progress.
My journey has been the result of persistent courage — courage to get real with myself, courage to ask for help, courage to delve deep inside, even if I was scared, courage to feel everything, including facing my darkness. And courage to claim my place in the world.
Life has taught me so much wisdom through the alchemy of pain. And in the process, I learned to live a life of deep feeling. I learned to sit with my feelings, including sitting with discomfort, instead of running from them. And one of my biggest lessons was that I had to learn that saying yes to myself didn’t mean I was saying no to anyone else or pushing people away.
I share all of this with you because I know what it’s like to feel lost, confused and deeply disconnected from myself. And I know very well what it feels like to have my life guided by what others think; and to feel like I have to hide my true self to fit in or more importantly, to be loved.
That is why I believe so wholeheartedly in the work I offer. What I learned in the process of transformed my own life, now informs how I show up for you! In fact, anything useful I have to say stems from healing my own woundedness, including my need to please..
My biggest achievement, and the absolute privilege of my life, is to work with and support women who want to release their personal burdens and find more authenticity, love, and joy in their lives. And by cultivating a life where respect, dignity, vulnerability and compassion lead the way, we can create personal freedom for ourselves. And in the process, a better world for all.
Certifications
1. Corporate CoachU (Coach University)
2. Licensed Holistic Counsellor (S.I.A.F. Italy)
3. Working With People
4. Biodynamic Breath and Trauma Release Practitioner
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I have known Pia for 20+ years and have had the immense pleasure to have worked alongside her as a peer in our capacity as Lead Resilience Coaches, running group coaching facilitation for Investment Bank Leadership Development Programmes. Pia is a gifted listener. It’s more than her empathy and ability to focus on someone else; she is uniquely able to quickly distil what she has heard into valuable, credible insight. Her ability to do that is immeasurably enhanced by her years of training in a wide array of therapeutic counselling disciplines and this combination easily distinguishes her. She is one of the most diligent and dedicated professionals I have worked with – highly values based, sincere and focused on meaningful results for her clients. I recommend her
without hesitation.
Interested in Working with Me?
Contact me today to open up to the wealth that lives within you.
And start to reconnect with your Inner Compass: and rediscover the magnificent and unique being you truly are!